This touched me. 

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. 

She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. 

She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her,’ Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' 

The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. 

Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift

Today before you say an unkind word - 

Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to ALMIGHTY GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life - 

Think of someone who died too young.

Before you complain about your children -

Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - 

Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive 

Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job - 

Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - 

Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - 

Put a smile on your face and thank GOD you're alive and still around.

And before you think of closing your Whatsapp messenger, Please think of sending this to as many people . It might change someone's thinking towards Life. Remain blessed. 🙌

🍃🍂🍃 🍂🍃🍂 🍃🍂🍃

           ✅ रिश्तों की दोस्ती

➡ पत्नी के दिल में भी झाककर देखों ,

खोई हुई गर्ल फ्रेंड मिल जाएगी.

➡ कभी बेटे से दोस्ती करके देखों ,

जवानी फिर से दस्तक दे जाएगी.

➡ सबसे पहला दोस्त याद करके देखों ,

माँ की याद तो आ ही जाएगी.

➡ बुढे बाप से दो बाते कर के देखो,

एक सुलझी दोस्ती घर में ही मिल जाएगी.

➡ ईश्वर से दोस्ती का हाथ बढा कर देखो,

कृष्ण की लिला समज में आ जाएगी.

✅ क्यूं दोस्तों में रिश्तें ढुंढते हो,

रिश्तों में दोस्त ढुंढो जिंदगी बन जाएगी..!!!

🍃🍂🍃🍂~🎭~🍂🍃🍂

🙏  OM SAI RAM  👏

21/08/15 22:52:39: Gurbani Uncle: जीवन का मूल्य :

गुरुनानक Saheb के पास एक आदमी

 गया और उसने कहा बताईये गुरूजी

 जीवन का मूल्य क्या है?

गुरूनानक ने उसे एक Stone दिया 

और कहा , जा और इस stone का 

मूल्य पता करके आ , लेकिन ध्यान 

रखना stone को बेचना नही है I

वह आदमी stone को बाजार मे एक

 संतरे वाले के पास लेकर गया और

 संतरे वाले को दिखाया l

बोला "बता , इसकी कीमत क्या है?

संतरे वाला चमकीले stone को देख 

कर बोला, "12 संतरे लेजा और इसे 

मुझे दे जा" 

वह आदमी संतरे वाले से बोला गुरू 

ने कहा है इसे बेचना नही है l

और 

आगे एक सब्जी वाले के पास गया, 

उसे stone दिखाया l सब्जी वाले ने 

उस चमकीले stone को देखा और

 कहा "एक बोरी आलू ले जा और 

इस stone को मेरे पास छोड़ जा"

उस आदमी ने कहा , मुझे इसे बेचना 

नही है , मेरे गुरू ने मना किया है I

आगे एक सोना बेचने वाले सुनार के 

पास गया उसे stone दिखाया सुनार

 उस चमकीले stone को देखकर बोला

 "50 लाख मे बेच दे" l उसने मना कर

 दिया तो सुनार बोला "2 करोड़ मे दे दे 

या बता इसकी कीमत जो माँगेगा वह

 दूँगा तुझे

उस आदमी ने सुनार से कहा मेरे गुरू

 ने इसे बेचने से मना किया है l

आगे हीरे बेचने वाले एक जौहरी के पास

 गया उसे stone दिखाया l जौहरी ने जब

 उस बेसकीमती रुबी को देखा , तो पहले

 उसने रुबी के पास एक लाल कपडा

 बिछाया फिर उस बेसकीमती रुबी की

 परिक्रमा लगाई माथा टेका l फिर जौहरी

 बोला , "कहा से लाया है ये बेसकीमती

 रुबी

"सारी कायनात , सारी दुनिया को बेचकर

 भी इसकी कीमत नही लगाई जा सकती 

ये तो बेसकीमती है l"

वह आदमी हैरान परेशान होकर सीधे गुरू

 के पास आया l अपनी आप बिती बताई

 और बोला

"अब बताओ गुरूजी मानवीय जीवन का

 मूल्य क्या है?

गुरूनानक बोले :

तूने पहले stone को संतरे वाले को

 दिखाया उसने इसकी कीमत 

"12 संतरे" की बताई l

आगे सब्जी वाले के पास गया उसने 

इसकी कीमत "1 बोरी आलू" बताई l

आगे सुनार ने "2 करोड़" बताई l

और 

जौहरी ने इसे "बेसकीमती" बताया l

अब ऐसे ही तेरा मानवीय मूल्य है lतू बेशक हीरा है लेकिन सामने वाला तेरा आकलन अपनी औकात अपनी जानकारी और अपनी हैसियत और मकसद से लगाएगा। घबराओ मत दुनिया में तुझे पहचानने वाले भी मिल जायेगे।

Respect Yourself,

You are also Unique,

No One Can Replace You.

22/08/15 08:11:59: Gurbani Uncle: .

.

Any Person can make you realise how wonderful the world is..

But

Only few will make you realise how wonderful you are in their world.

Always Care for those few..

😊😊Have a great day😊😊

How to Work with Someone You Hate

• Amy Gallo

JANUARY 30, 2012

 
 
 

Working with someone you hate can be distracting and draining. Pompous jerk, annoying nudge, or incessant complainer, an insufferable colleague can negatively affect your attitude and performance. Instead of focusing on the work you have to do together, you may end up wasting time and energy trying to keep your emotions in check and attempting to manage the person’s behavior. Fortunately, with the right tactics, you can still have a productive working relationship with someone you can’t stand.

What the Experts Say
If you work with someone you don’t like, you’re not alone. The detested co-worker is a familiar archetype. Robert Sutton, a professor of management science and engineering at Stanford University and the author of Good Boss, Bad Bossand The No Asshole Rule, says this is part of the human condition. “There are always other people — be they relatives, fellow commuters, neighbors, or coworkers — who we are at risk of tangling with,” he says. Avoiding people you don’t like is generally a successful tactic but it’s not always possible in a workplace. “Some people are there, like it or not,” points out Daniel Goleman, the co-director of the Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations at Rutgers University and author of The Brain and Emotional Intelligence: New Insights. Next time you find yourself shooting daggers at the person in the cubicle next to you, consider the following advice.

Manage your reaction
Your response to your dreaded co-worker may range from slight discomfort to outright hostility. Goleman says the first step is to manage it. He suggests that if there is someone who is annoying or abrasive, don’t think about how the person acts, think about how you react. It’s far more productive to focus on your own behavior because you can control it. To handle your triggers, Goleman advises you practice a relaxation method daily. This will “enhance your ability to handle stress, which means the annoying person isn’t that annoying anymore,” he says.

Keep your distaste to yourself
While working through your displeasure, avoid the temptation to gripe with other coworkers. Don’t corner someone by the water cooler and say, “There’s something about Jessica I don’t like, don’t you agree?” Sutton notes that we all have a tendency to look for confirmation of our own opinions, but we should also resist it. “Because emotions are so contagious, you can bring everyone down,” Sutton says. Besides, complaining about someone in your office can reflect negatively on you. You may garner a reputation as unprofessional or be labeled as the difficult one. If you find you have to vent, choose your support network carefully. Ideally, choose people outside the office.

Consider whether it’s you, not them 
Once you have your reactions in check, think about what it is you don’t like about the person. Is there something specific that sets you off? Is it that she’s just different than you? Does he remind you of your father? Do you wish you had her job? Jealousy and other negative emotions can cause us to wrongly assess and mistreat others. “When someone is doing better than us, we tend to scorn them,” Sutton says. Differences can make us biased. “Our favorite person in the world is ourselves. The more different someone is from us, the more likely we are to have a negative reaction to them,” he says. Focus on the behaviors, not the traits, that irk you; this will help you discern stereotypes from true dislike. “Start with the hypothesis that the person is doing things you don’t like but is a good person,” says Sutton. By better understanding what is bothering you, you may also be able to see your role in it. “It’s reasonable to assume you’re part of the problem,” says Sutton. Be honest with yourself about your share of the issue. And be on the lookout for patterns. “If everywhere you go there’s someone you hate, it’s a bad sign,” Sutton warns.

Spend more time with them
“One of the best ways to get to like someone you don’t like is to work on a project that requires coordination,” says Sutton. This may seem counterintuitive since you likely want to run from the room screaming whenever the person is there. But by working together, you can understand him better and perhaps even develop some empathy. “You might feel compassion instead of irritation,” says Goleman. You may discover there are reasons for his actions: stress at home, pressure from his boss, or maybe he’s tried to do what you’re asking for and failed. Spending more time with your foe will also grant you the opportunity to have more positive experiences. But before you sign up to lead the next task force with someone you don’t like, remember that there is one exception: “If it’s someone who violates your sense of what’s moral, getting away isn’t a bad strategy,” says Sutton.

Consider providing feedback
If none of the above has worked, you may want to consider giving your colleague some feedback. It may be that what bothers you is something that regularly gets in her way as a professional. “Don’t assume the person knows how they are coming across,” says Sutton. Of course, you shouldn’t launch into a diatribe about everything she does to annoy you. Focus on behaviors that she can control and describe how they impact you and your work together. If shared carefully, you may help her develop greater self-awareness and increase her effectiveness.

But proceed cautiously. Goleman says whether you give feedback “depends on how artful you are as a communicator and how receptive they are as a person.” If you feel he might be open and you can have a civilized conversation focused on work issues, then go ahead and tread lightly. But if this is a person you suspect will be vindictive or mad, or will turn it into a personal conflict, don’t risk it. “The landmine when giving emotional feedback is that they take it personally and it escalates,” says Goleman. You also need to be open to hearing feedback yourself. If you don’t like him, the chances are good he isn’t very fond of you either.

Adopt a don’t-care attitude
In situations where you are truly stuck and can’t provide feedback Suttons recommends you “practice the fine art of emotional detachment or not giving a shit.” By ignoring the irritating behaviors, you neutralize the affect on you. “If he’s being a pain but you don’t feel the pain, then there’s no problem,” explains Goleman. This type of cognitive reframing can be effective in situations where you have little to no control.

Principles to Remember

Do:

• Manage your own reaction to the behavior first
• Practice emotional detachment so the person’s behaviors don’t bother you
• Spend time trying to get to know the person and better understand what motivates him

Don’t:

• Assume that it is all about the other person — you likely play some part
• Commiserate with others who could be unfairly influenced by your negativity or may judge you for your complaints
• Give feedback unless you can focus on work issues and can avoid a personal conflict

Case study #1: Get to know him
Bruno West*, a senior executive in technology, was responsible for a post merger integration team that included members from both of the pre-merger companies. “It was a highly charged environment with aggressive deadlines and near endless work days,” he says. Harry*, the CFO from one of the companies was particularly challenging; he had a caustic style, often spoke in a pejorative way, and even withheld critical information from Bruno and others. Harry was frustrated by Bruno but tried hard to withhold judgment. “I always ask — do I really not like the person or does their experiences and background cause them to address issues different than I do?” he explains. Whether he liked him or not, Bruno knew that he needed Harry’s participation to be successful. He decided to spend time with Harry’s colleagues in the former company to better understand what it was that Harry brought to the table. They spoke highly of his experience and his long history with the organization. Bruno then took Harry out to dinner and let him vent. “He voiced many concerns and was quite derogatory,” Bruno said. Then he asked Harry to talk about some of the projects he had heard about from his former co-workers. “He shared with pride the teamwork, the late evenings filled with collaboration, shared success and accomplishment.” At the end of the dinner, Bruno felt he better understood Harry and where he was coming from.

Bruno then slowly began to bring up the other stories about past projects during team meetings and asked Harry to explain what he felt they could learn from those experiences. “Momentum became our friend. He wanted to be recognized for his past accomplishments in the eyes of the new company members. Everyone in the former company knew his great value but he felt he needed to prove himself again,” he said. Harry was much more cooperative when others asked for his viewpoint and acknowledged his expertise. Bruno had a much easier time working with him. Harry eventually left the new company but the two parted on good terms.

Case Study #2: Keep a healthy perspective 
When Alex Vanier*, a logistics officer with the Canadian Army, returned from a tour of duty in Kandahar, he was assigned to work for Major Newton*, a maintenance officer in Petawawa, an hour and a half northwest of Ottawa. Alex found the major to be standoffish and quick to criticize. Even worse, the major often unloaded work on Alex. “He gave me things that were his to do and were inappropriate for me to handle,” he says. The major didn’t mentor the people below him and it often seemed he was only looking out for himself. He would ask Alex for candid advice on supply issues and when Alex replied with what he thought was his confidential perspective, the major would forward on his reply unfiltered to the commander. “I didn’t really enjoy working with him at all. He had this real ‘better than you’ attitude,” he says.

Alex tried not to do anything that would put him in close proximity to the major. Since he was his boss, this wasn’t always possible. “I went to work and did my job,” he says. He saw that the major behaved that way with everyone. “I looked at him and thought ‘he has flaws’ but I didn’t take it personally,” he says. He also turned to friends outside of the office with whom he could vent. At one point, Alex thought he would go to the chief of staff to share what was going on but then thought better of it. “I didn’t feel it was my job to go and topple him,” he says. Plus he didn’t want to be seen as a complainer and wasn’t sure sharing his opinion would change anything. Since assignments in the military are often short, Alex decided to wait it out. Eventually the major was sent to another position and Alex filled in for his role for four months. He said it was a vindicating experience because people commented on what a better job he was doing. In the end, Alex says he has no ill will toward the major. He believes it made him more self-aware. “I often ask myself, ‘Is this something I do with my subordinates?” Ultimately he feels he’s a better manager because of it.

20/08/15 07:57:18: Gurbani Uncle: When you arise in the morning think of Almighty's gifts to you ....

Think of what a special privilege it is to be Alive 

to breathe 

to think 

to enjoy 

to love ...

Have a nice day😊

Very nice article by Late  Khushwant Singh. Preserve this .😊

How To Live & Die

I’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness.

 

1- First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.

 

2- Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.

 

3- Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them.

 

4- Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to be quarrelling all the time.

 

5- Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.

 

6- Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gossip. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

 

7- Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfill you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully.

 

8- Eighth, every morning and evening devote 15 minutes to introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.

 

9- Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.

 

10- Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a Person without any regret or grievance against anyone.

Startup Ideas We'd Like to Fund Paul Graham July 2008 When we read Y Combinator applications there are always ideas we're hoping to see. In the past we've never said publicly what they are. If we say we're looking for x, we'll get applications proposing x, certainly. But then it actually becomes harder to judge them: is this group proposing x because they were already thinking about it, or because they know that's what we want to hear? We don't like to sit on these ideas, though, because we really want people to work on them. So we're trying something new: we're going to list some of the ideas we've been waiting to see, but only describe them in general terms. It may be that recipes for ideas are the most useful form anyway, because imaginative people will take them in directions we didn't anticipate. Please don't feel that if you want to apply to Y Combinator, you have to work on one of these types of ideas. If we've learned nothing else from doing YC, it's how little we know. Many of the best startups we've funded, like Loopt, proposed things we'd never considered. 1. A cure for the disease of which the RIAA is a symptom. Something is broken when Sony and Universal are suing children. Actually, at least two things are broken: the software that file sharers use, and the record labels' business model. The current situation can't be the final answer. And what happened with music is now happening with movies. When the dust settles in 20 years, what will this world look like? What components of it could you start building now? The answer may be far afield. The answer for the music industry, for example, is probably to give up insisting on payment for recorded music and focus on licensing and live shows. But what happens to movies? Do they morph into games? 2. Simplified browsing. There are a lot of cases where you'd trade some of the power of a web browser for greater simplicity. Grandparents and small children don't want the full web; they want to communicate and share pictures and look things up. What viable ideas lie undiscovered in the space between a digital photo frame and a computer running Firefox? If you built one now, who else would use it besides grandparents and small children? 3. New news. As Marc Andreessen points out, newspapers are in trouble. The problem is not merely that they've been slow to adapt to the web. It's more serious than that: their problems are due to deep structural flaws that are exposed now that they have competitors. When the only sources of news were the wire services and a few big papers, it was enough to keep writing stories about how the president met with someone and they each said conventional things written in advance by their staffs. Readers were never that interested, but they were willing to consider this news when there were no alternatives. News will morph significantly in the more competitive environment of the web. So called "blogs" (because the old media call everything published online a "blog") like PerezHilton and TechCrunch are one sign of the future. News sites like Reddit and Digg are another. But these are just the beginning. 4. Outsourced IT. In most companies the IT department is an expensive bottleneck. Getting them to make you a simple web form could take months. Enter Wufoo. Now if the marketing department wants to put a form on the web, they can do it themselves in 5 minutes. You can take practically anything users still depend on IT departments for and base a startup on it, and you will have the enormous force of their present dissatisfaction pushing you forward. 5. Enterprise software 2.0. Enterprise software companies sell bad software for huge amounts of money. They get away with it for a variety of reasons that link together to form a sort of protective wall. But the software world is changing. I suspect that if you study different parts of the enterprise software business (not just what the software does, but more importantly, how it's sold) you'll find parts that could be picked off by startups. One way to start is to make things for smaller companies, because they can't afford the overpriced stuff made for big ones. They're also easier to sell to. 6. More variants of CRM. This is a form of enterprise software, but I'm mentioning it explicitly because it seems like this area has such potential. CRM ("Customer Relationship Management") means all sorts of different things, but a lot of the current embodiments don't seem much more than mailing list managers. It should be possible to make interactions with customers much higher-res. 7. Something your company needs that doesn't exist. Many of the best startups happened when someone needed something in their work, found it didn't exist, and quit to build it. This is vaguer than most of the other recipes here, but it may be the most valuable. You're working on something you know customers want, because you were the customer. And if it was something you needed at work, other people will too, and they'll be willing to pay for it. So if you're working for a big company and you want to strike out on your own, here's a recipe for an idea. Start this sentence: "We'd pay a lot if someone would just build a ..." Whatever you say next is probably a good product idea. 8. Dating. Current dating sites are not the last word. Better ones will appear. But anyone who wants to start a dating startup has to answer two questions: in addition to the usual question about how you're going to approach dating differently, you have to answer the even more important question of how to overcome the huge chicken and egg problem every dating site faces. A site like Reddit is interesting when there are only 20 users. But no one wants to use a dating site with only 20 users—which of course becomes a self-perpetuating problem. So if you want to do a dating startup, don't focus on the novel take on dating that you're going to offer. That's the easy half. Focus on novel ways to get around the chicken and egg problem. 9. Photo/video sharing services. A lot of the most popular sites on the web are for photo sharing. But the sites classified as social networks are also largely about photo sharing. As much as people like to share words (IM and email and blogging are "word sharing" apps), they probably like to share pictures more. It's less work and the results are usually more interesting. I think there is huge growth still to come. There may ultimately be 30 different subtypes of image/video sharing service, half of which remain to be discovered. 10. Auctions. Online auctions have more potential than most people currently realize. Auctions seem boring now because EBay is doing a bad job, but is still powerful enough that they have a de facto monopoly. Result: stagnation. But I suspect EBay could now be attacked on its home territory, and that this territory would, in the hands of a successful invader, turn out to be more valuable than it currently appears. As with dating, however, a startup that wants to do this has to expend more effort on their strategy for cracking the monopoly than on how their auction site will work. 11. Web Office apps. We're interested in funding anyone competing with Microsoft desktop software. Obviously this is a rich market, considering how much Microsoft makes from it. A startup that made a tenth as much would be very happy. And a startup that takes on such a project will be helped along by Microsoft itself, who between their increasingly bureaucratic culture and their desire to protect existing desktop revenues will probably do a bad job of building web-based Office variants themselves. Before you try to start a startup doing this, however, you should be prepared to explain why existing web-based Office alternatives haven't taken the world by storm, and how you're going to beat that. 12. Fix advertising. Advertising could be made much better if it tried to please its audience, instead of treating them like victims who deserve x amount of abuse in return for whatever free site they're getting. It doesn't work anyway; audiences learn to tune out boring ads, no matter how loud they shout. What we have now is basically print and TV advertising translated to the web. The right answer will probably look very different. It might not even seem like advertising, by current standards. So the way to approach this problem is probably to start over from scratch: to think what the goal of advertising is, and ask how to do that using the new ingredients technology gives us. Probably the new answers exist already, in some early form that will only later be recognized as the replacement for traditional advertising. Bonus points if you can invent new forms of advertising whose effects are measurable, above all in sales. 13. Online learning. US schools are often bad. A lot of parents realize it, and would be interested in ways for their kids to learn more. Till recently, schools, like newspapers, had geographical monopolies. But the web changes that. How can you teach kids now that you can reach them through the web? The possible answers are a lot more interesting than just putting books online. One route would be to start with test prep services, for which there's already demand, and then expand into teaching kids more than just how to score high on tests. Another would be to start with games and gradually make them more thoughtful. Another, particularly for younger kids, would be to let them learn by watching one another (anonymously) solve problems. 14. Tools for measurement. Now that so much happens on computers connected to networks, it's possible to measure things we may not have realized we could. And there are some big problems that may be soluble if we can measure more. The most important of all is the defining flaw of large organizations: you can't tell who the most productive people are. A small company is measured directly by the market. But once an organization gets big enough that people on in the interior are protected from market forces, politics starts to rule, instead of performance. An improvement of even a few percent in the ability to measure what actually happens in large organizations would have a huge impact on the world economy, and a startup that enabled it would be entitled to a cut. 15. Off the shelf security. Services like ADT charge a fortune. Now that houses and their owners are both connected to networks practically all the time, a startup could stitch together alternatives out of cheap, existing hardware and services. 16. A form of search that depends on design. Google doesn't have a lot of weaknesses. One of the biggest is that they have no sense of design. They do the next best thing, which is to keep things sparse. But if there were a kind of search that depended a lot on design, a startup might actually be able to beat Google at search. I don't know if there is, but if you do, we'd love to hear from you. 17. New payment methods. There are almost certainly things whose growth is held back because there's no way to charge for them. And the people who could implement solutions don't realize how much demand there would be, precisely because this growth has been held back. So pretty much any new way of paying for things that's easier for some class of situations will turn out to have a bigger market than its inventors expected. Look at Paypal. (Warning: Regulated industry.) 18. The WebOS. It probably won't be a literal translation of a client OS shifted to servers. But as applications migrate to servers, it seems possible there will be something that plays a central role like an OS does. We've already funded several startups that could be candidates. But this is a big prize, and there will probably be multiple winners. 19. Application and/or data hosting. This is related to the preceding idea, but not identical. And again, while we've already funded several startups in this area, it's probably going to be big enough that it contains several rich markets. It may turn out that 4, 18, and 19 all have the same answer. Or rather, that there will be things that answer all three. But the way to find such a grand, overarching solution is probably not to approach it directly, but to start by solving smaller, specific problems, then gradually expand your scope. Start by writing Basic for the Altair. 20. Shopping guides. Like news, shopping used to be constrained by geography. You went to your local store and chose from what they had. Now the space of possibilities is bewilderingly large, and people need help navigating it. If you already know what you want, Bountii can find you the best price. But how do you decide what you want? Hint: One answer is related to number 3. 21. Finance software for individuals and small businesses. Intuit seems ripe for picking off. The difficulty is that they've got data connections with all the banks. That's hard for a small startup to match. But if you can start in a neighboring area and gradually expand into their territory, you could displace them. 22. A web-based Excel/database hybrid. People often use Excel as a lightweight database. I suspect there's an opportunity to create the program such users wish existed, and that there are new things you could do if it were web-based. Like make it easier to get data into it, through forms or scraping. Don't make it feel like a database. That frightens people. The question to ask is: how much can I let people do without defining structure? You want the database equivalent of a language that makes its easy to keep data in linked lists. (Which means you probably want to write it in one.) 23. More open alternatives to Wikipedia. Deletionists rule Wikipedia. Ironically, they're constrained by print-era thinking. What harm does it do if an online reference has a long tail of articles that are only interesting to a few people, so long as everyone can still find whatever they're looking for? There is room to do to Wikipedia what Wikipedia did to Britannica. 24. A buffer against bad customer service. A lot of companies (to say nothing of government agencies) have appalling customer service. "Please stay on the line. Your call is important to us." Doesn't it make you cringe just to read that? Sometimes the UIs presented to customers are even deliberately difficult; some airlines deliberately make it hard to buy tickets using miles, for example. Maybe if you built a more user-friendly wrapper around common bad customer service experiences, people would pay to use it. Passport expediters are an encouraging example. 25. A Craigslist competitor. Craiglist is ambivalent about being a business. This is both a strength and a weakness. If you focus on the areas where it's a weakness, you may find there are better ways to solve some of the problems Craigslist solves. 26. Better video chat. Skype and Tokbox are just the beginning. There's going to be a lot of evolution in this area, especially on mobile devices. 27. Hardware/software hybrids. Most hackers find hardware projects alarming. You have to deal with messy, expensive physical stuff. But Meraki shows what you can do if you're willing to venture even a little way into hardware. There's a lot of low-hanging fruit in hardware; you can often do dramatically new things by making comparatively small tweaks to existing stuff. Hardware is already mostly software. What I mean by a hardware/software hybrid is one in which software plays a very visible role. If you work on an idea of this type you'll tend to have the field to yourself, because most hackers are afraid of hardware, and most hardware companies can't write good software. (One reason your iPod isn't made by Sony is that Sony can't write iTunes.) 28. Fixing email overload. A lot of people, including me, feel they get too much email. A solution would find a ready market. But the best solution may not be anything as obvious as a new mail reader. Related problem: Using your inbox as a to-do list. The solution is probably to acknowledge this rather than prevent it. 29. Easy site builders for specific markets. Weebly is a good, general-purpose site builder. But there are a lot of markets that could use more specialized tools. What's the best way to make a web site if you're a real estate agent, or a restaurant, or a lawyer? There still don't seem to be canonical answers. Obviously the way to build this is to write a flexible site builder, then write layers on top to produce different variants. Hint: The key to making a site builder for end-users is to make software that lets people with no design ability produce things that look good—or at least professional. 30. Startups for startups. The increasing number of startups is itself an opportunity for startups. We're one; TechCrunch is another. What other new things can you do? Consider this list to end with a giant ellipsis. It's not even a complete list of the types of ideas we're looking for, let alone of all types of startup ideas. So if you have a great idea that's not on this list, don't be deterred. Some of the best ideas are outliers everyone ignores because they seem crazy. It was an interesting exercise to write out this list. I noticed a lot of similarities between ideas that I never realized were there. In fact, when you read the list, you get a pretty accurate composite portrait of a startup: a combination of relentless predator upon the obsolete and benevolent solver of the world's problems. As ways of making money go, that's pretty good. Startups are often ruthless competitors, but they're competing in a game won by making what people want. Comment on this article. Apply | What We Do | Blog | People | Jobs | Quotes | FAQ | Contact | Lib | Legal

21 Rules For Your Golden Years ! Read it patiently Masi as its d rudraksh for our days to come👍

Some of us have reached our golden years, and some of us have not. But these suggestions should be read by everyone. They have been collected from many a senior, each with his or her own piece of advice. Some you know, some may surprise you, and some will remind you of what's important. So read well, share with your loved ones, and have a great day and a great life!

 

1. It's time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don't just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for an investment, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries and this is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

 

2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don't feel bad spending your money on yourself. You've taken care of them for many years, and you've taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.

 

3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It's easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, get tested even when you're feeling well. Stay informed.

 

4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.

 

5. Don't stress over the little things. You've already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don't let the past drag you down and don't let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

 

6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: "A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection."

 

7. Be proud, both inside and out. Don't stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.

 

8. Don't lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There's nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You've developed your own sense of what looks good on you - keep it and be proud of it. It's part of who you are.

 

9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You'll be surprised which old friends you'll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

 

10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday's wisdom that still applies today.

 

11. Never use the phrase: "In my time". Your time is now. As long as you're alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life. 

 

12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it'll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around. 

 

13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you've lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone. 

 

14. Don't abandon your hobbies. If you don't have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

 

15. Even if you don't feel like it, try to accept invitations. Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven't seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don't get upset when you're not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.

 

16. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That's a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don't go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

 

17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we're all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

 

18. If you've been offended by someone - forgive them. If you've offended someone - apologize. Don't drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn't matter who was right. Someone once said: "Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die." Don't take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

 

19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But don't waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

 

20. Laugh. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what's not to laugh about? Find the humor in your situation.

 

 

21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They'll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you've achieved. Let them talk and don't worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you've lived so far. There's still much to be done, so get busy doing and don't waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at peace and as happy as you can be!

 

 

AND REMEMBER: "Life is too short to drink bad wine."

Former President & eminent scientist Dr APJ Abdul Kalam passed away in Shillong on Monday. Kalam collapsed during a speech at IIM Shillong and was immediately rushed to the nearby Bethany Hospital.
Here are some of Kalam’s inspirational sayings through which he will be remembered forever…
“You have to dream before your dreams can come true.”

“If a country is to be corruption free and become a nation of beautiful minds, I strongly feel there are three key societal members who can make a difference. They are the father, the mother and the teacher.”

“My message, especially to young people is to have courage to think differently, courage to invent, to travel the unexplored path, courage to discover the impossible and to conquer the problems and succeed. These are great qualities that they must work towards. This is my message to the young people.”

“To succeed in your mission, you must have single-minded devotion to your goal.”

“Let me define a leader. He must have vision and passion and not be afraid of any problem. Instead, he should know how to defeat it. Most importantly, he must work with integrity.”

“Great dreams of great dreamers are always transcended.”

“Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow.”

“Man needs his difficulties because they are necessary to enjoy success.”

“Look at the sky. We are not alone. The whole universe is friendly to us and conspires only to give the best to those who dream and work.”

“You see, God helps only people who work hard. That principle is very clear.”

gentleman's guide

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The Hidden Power of Humility

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“We come nearest to the great when we are great in humility.”– Rabindranath Tagore
Humility is a funny thing. In fact, my grandfather used to tell us that he won a medal for his humility, but it was taken away when he began to wear it.
Humility is the act of being modest, reverential, even politely submissive. It is the opposite of aggression, arrogance, pride, and vanity. And on the surface, it appears to empty its holder of all power.
But on the contrary, it grants enormous power to its owner.
Humility offers its owner complete freedom from the desire to impress, be right, or get ahead. Frustrations and losses have less impact on a humble ego and a humble person confidently receives opportunity to grow, improve, and reject society‘s labels. A humble life results in contentment, patience, forgiveness, and compassion.

• Humility understands individual limitations. Humans, by definition, are finite and thus, limited in our understanding. Our talents are different, our minds are different, and our experiences vary from one another. Individually, we comprehend only a small, unique fraction of the world. But together, we arrive at a far-grander view of the Universe. Humble people realize their understanding is limited and embrace it. As a result, they wisely look for answers outside of themselves.
• Humility appreciates others. All human life carries inherent value. Our souls hold no more value or importance than the person sitting next to us, no matter where we may be sitting. A humble person appreciates the fact that the world does not revolve around him or her. And accepts their position as just a tiny piece in the giant puzzle.
• Humility respects others and their opinions. Just because an opinion is different doesn’t mean it is wrong. Please don’t misunderstand me, the opposing opinion may be wrong (there are countless either/or arguments where both sides can’t be right). I’m only saying that it is not wrong just because it is different… and that is a far better place to begin the dialogue.
• Humility listens more. And speaks less. It spends more time understanding… and less time being understood.
• Humility withholds judgments over intentions as much as possible. The quickest way to win an argument in your mind is to make sweeping judgements concerning the intentions of others. It is the easiest way to discount any valid, opposing argument. It is also one of the most damaging. In fact, in my opinion, it is one of the primary reasons that humility has completely vanished from our political discourse.
• Humility helps others and promotes others. Joy is not found in being right and arriving at the top. Instead, joy is found in helping others grow and succeed. Humility realizes that in those cases, both win.

Humility always begins in our heart. As a result, it offers significant control over attitude, outlook, and actions. It has nothing to prove, but everything to offer.

चार मोमबत्तियां ::

रात का समय था, चारों तरफ सन्नाटा पसरा हुआ

था , नज़दीक ही एक कमरे में चार मोमबत्तियां जल

रही थीं। एकांत पा कर आज वे एक दुसरे से दिल

की बात कर रही थीं।

पहली मोमबत्ती बोली, ” मैं शांति हूँ , पर मुझे

लगता है अब इस दुनिया को मेरी ज़रुरत नहीं है , हर

तरफ आपाधापी और लूट-मार मची हुई है, मैं यहाँ अब

और नहीं रह सकती। …” और ऐसा कहते हुए , कुछ देर में

वो मोमबत्ती बुझ गयी।

दूसरी मोमबत्ती बोली , ” मैं विश्वास हूँ , और मुझे

लगता है झूठ और फरेब के बीच मेरी भी यहाँ कोई

ज़रुरत नहीं है , मैं भी यहाँ से जा रही हूँ …” , और

दूसरी मोमबत्ती भी बुझ गयी।

तीसरी मोमबत्ती भी दुखी होते हुए बोली , ” मैं प्रेम

हूँ, मेरे पास जलते रहने की ताकत है, पर आज हर कोई

इतना व्यस्त है कि मेरे लिए किसी के पास वक्त

ही नहीं, दूसरों से तो दूर लोग अपनों से भी प्रेम

करना भूलते जा रहे हैं ,मैं ये सब और नहीं सह सकती मैं

भी इस दुनिया से जा रही हूँ….” और ऐसा कहते हुए

तीसरी मोमबत्ती भी बुझ गयी।

वो अभी बुझी ही थी कि एक मासूम बच्चा उस कमरे

में दाखिल हुआ।

मोमबत्तियों को बुझे देख वह घबरा गया ,

उसकी आँखों से आंसू टपकने लगे और वह रुंआसा होते हुए

बोला ,

“अरे , तुम मोमबत्तियां जल क्यों नहीं रही , तुम्हे

तो अंत तक जलना है ! तुम इस तरह बीच में हमें कैसे छोड़

के जा सकती हो ?”

तभी चौथी मोमबत्ती बोली , ” प्यारे बच्चे घबराओ

नहीं, मैं आशा हूँ और जब तक मैं जल रही हूँ हम

बाकी मोमबत्तियों को फिर से जला सकते हैं। “

यह सुन बच्चे की आँखें चमक उठीं, और उसने आशा के बल

पे शांति, विश्वास, और प्रेम को फिर से प्रकाशित

कर दिया।

जब सबकुछ बुरा होते दिखे ,चारों तरफ अन्धकार

ही अन्धकार नज़र आये , अपने भी पराये लगने लगें

तो भी उम्मीद मत छोड़िये….आशा मत छोड़िये ,

क्योंकि इसमें इतनी शक्ति है कि ये हर खोई हुई चीज

आपको वापस दिल सकती है।

अपनी आशा की मोमबत्ती को जलाये रखिये ,बस

अगर ये जलती रहेग तोआप किसी भी और

मोमबत्ती को प्रकाशित कर सकते

👌👌👍👍बहुत ही सुन्दर वर्णन है  👏👏👏

मस्तक को थोड़ा झुकाकर देखिए....अभिमान मर जाएगा

आँखें को थोड़ा भिगा कर देखिए.....पत्थर दिल पिघल जाएगा

दांतों को आराम देकर देखिए.........स्वास्थ्य सुधर जाएगा

जिव्हा पर विराम लगा कर देखिए.....क्लेश का कारवाँ गुज़र जाएगा

इच्छाओं को थोड़ा घटाकर देखिए......खुशियों का संसार नज़र आएगा..

🙏GooD Morning🙏

🛀🚿🌅🌞

🙏JAY shree krishna 🙏

*Must read. *                             A beautiful speech by Sundar Pichai - an IIT-MIT Alumnus and Global Head Google Chrome:

The cockroach theory for self development👍

     

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and  sat on a lady. 

She started screaming out of fear. 

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach  responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.

I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!,,,,,,,

🌟🌟 Have a Really beautiful Life🌟🌟

ethics

Ethics – Just read up definitions online and read some answer scripts put up on Vision IAS website.

D K Balaji Rank – 36 General Studies – 4: Ethics and Integrity Strategy

by INSIGHTS · August 3, 2015

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My General Studies – 4 (Ethics & Integrity) Strategy

D K Balaji, Rank 36, CSE-2014

Dear Friends,
I intend to share my strategy for “Ethics, Integrity and Civil Services Aptitude”. Before I start, I intend to make it clear that my strategy may not be foolproof. Thus, I cannot guarantee that following my strategy would assure everyone very high score.
It is just the strategy that I followed and it has offered me a decent score of 121/250.
The opening remarks about the syllabus for ETHICS paper in CSE notification read as follows:
“This paper will include questions to test the candidates’ attitude and approach to issues relating to integrity, probity in public life and his problem solving approach to various issues and conflicts faced by him in dealing with society”
These words caught my attention very much and I decided that ETHICS paper is designed to evaluate the ‘ethical competence‘, but not the ‘knowledge about ethics‘. So, I decided not to run behind any book or any material of any institute. Now, when I see bulky material for ETHICS by various top-notch institutes, it just surprises and amazes me. That aside, I decided to understand the meanings of every term in the syllabus first. Mind you, I wanted to understand the meanings, not know their definitions. So, I decided to learn meanings from internet. Here, the links offered by www.insightsonindia.com helped me a lot. It just reduced my effort to visit all sites suggested by Google search engine.
After reading about every term, I started thinking deeply about it. I used to pick some 4-5 terms randomly every day and read about them and kept on thinking whenever I found time (while eating, bathing, before going to sleep etc etc). My thought process revolved around two intentions. First, I tried to express and explain the meanings of each term in my own way with my own words, in simple English. Second, I tried to link those concepts to my life or lives of people whom I know. I couldn’t connect every term to my life or lives of people whom I knew. In such cases, I did something different. I would explain that a little later.
To illustrate, after reading about VALUES, I kept on thinking about that. Later, my understanding got crystallized as below:
“Values imply ‘Preferences’. Whatever is preferred or valued by an individual becomes his/her value. Whatever is preferred or valued by society, as a whole becomes societal value. Thus, Indian society prefers COLLECTIVISM. So, it is Indian society’s value. Similarly, INDIVIDUALISM is valued in America and hence it is American society’s value. Values change with time. Because People and society prefer different things at different points of time. In India, before – 1947, PATRIOTISM was the most predominant value. Similarly, post-1991, thanks to the consumerist culture being set in in India, MONEY also now become a value…”
I want to emphasize that the above text is not an excerpt from any textbook. It is just my understanding of VALUES being shaped by my thought process and examples are all my own observations.
I used to do like this for almost every term in the syllabus.
I took extra care in ensuring that I expressed the meaning of every term in as few words as possible. To illustrate, Values mean preferences; ethics means guide about right or wrong; Transparency means provision of access of government information to public; Accountability means holding a person answerable to his/her acts; Attitude means a person’s own evaluation of another person, idea, situation etc. Examples abound. (I have read somewhere that depth of understanding is inversely proportional to the quantity of words used to express the same).
This helped me remember things easily and express my understanding in a very effective way.
So,
LESSON 1 – learn meanings, develop your own understanding by thinking and then be able to express the same in as few words as possible.
Then, I connected every term to my life or lives of persons I knew.
After thinking about VALUES, I thought of my values and the incidents where I have demonstrated those values in my life. I realized that HONESTY is my value. I recounted the following incidents where I had demonstrated HONESTY.

• Incident 1 – In my 10the Standard Board exams, in English Paper, we were asked to write the opposite of POPULAR. I had written IMPOPULAR. Then, exam invigilator who was walking accidentally saw my answer script and told me, the correct answer is UNPOPULAR. However, I did not change my answer.
• Incident 2 – One Saturday, I ate IDLI at Parimala Hotel in Tumakuru Bus stand. I forgot to pay the money and came out of the hotel. Even hotel people did not ask me. I realized that in the evening when I found excess money in my pocket. Then I promptly went to the hotel, said sorry and paid the money on Monday morning.

(I intentionally recollected even minute details such as Hotel name, what I ate eve, to prove that it is not a cooked up story)
I did this exercise for almost all terms. This is just a sample.
You people can also recollect such incidents from your life.
So,
LESSON 2 – Connect your life with terms in syllabus, recollect specific incidents and use them in your answers
(The real life incidents may be as simple as offering a seat to elderly in bus, helping a visually challenged cross road and so on . Yet, bring them into your answers).
Sometimes we may not have such real life incidents from our lives. Then, what to do? If possible, quote the examples from the lives of great souls, which you may have read or heard of. Please don’t run behind autobiographies and biographies now. Whatever you know by now, just try to recollect them. One tip I can give you here – our language subjects up to 10th standard had many such anecdotes. Just recollect them. Here I give a few such anecdotes for your benefit.

• Sir M. Visvesvrayya, then Dewan of Mysore state, used Government vehicle while he went to tender his resignation. After tendering his resignation, he drove back by his private vehicle.
• He always maintained two sets of candles – one set bought out of government money and the other set bought from his money. He used the former set of candles for looking into official documents and used the latter set to read books. (The above two anecdotes are the best examples for not misusing public resources for private gain)
• Kuvempu, Jnanapith awardee, a poet and Karnataka’s pride, was once Vice-Chancellor of Mysore University. His son Poornachandra Tejaswi was studying BA in the same university. Once, an English Professor approached KUVEMPU and told him that his son had scored marks below minimum pass-mark in English Paper and asked KUVEMPU as to what to do. KUVEMPU went through the answer script and instructed the professor to award to even lesser marks. (This anecdote is the best examples for avoiding conflict of interest)
• A Rajput Prince was conspired to be killed. Panna who worked in the court learnt the conspiracy. In order to save the Prince, she replaced the Prince with her own kid. Her own kid got killed. (This anecdote is the best example for LOYALTY)
• A workaholic engineer was working in a major scientific project. Abdul Kalam sir was the project head. Children of that engineer once asked their father to take them to an exhibition in the evening. Engineer sought permission from Kalam sir to leave early and mentioned the reason as well. Kalaam sir agreed. However, he got so much involved in the work that he completely forgot that he had to leave early. Kalaam sir observed the engineer being engrossed in the work. So, he only took children to exhibition. (This anecdote is the best examples for EMPATHY TOWARDS SUBORDINATES)
• Satish Dhawan was the chairman of ISRO during the first launch of SLV, the mission failed. He took the responsibility for failure. In the next attempt, when the launch was successful, he gave full credit to the team that had worked for it (This anecdote is the best examples for LEADERSHIP and TEAMBUILDING)
• Sagayam, an IAS officer from Tamil Nadu has disclosed his and his family’s assets on the website. (Best Example for PROBITY, TRANSPARENCY)
• K. Jairaj, Karnataka-cadre HAS officer was to approve the dismissal of a lady typist on the grounds of unruly behavior by her against her colleagues. Jairaj sir delved a little deeper into the issue and found out that she had been widow and one co-worker misused her, promising her a new life. And this had pushed her into depression. Adding salt to the wound, her co-workers started abusing her in filthy language. This had made her lose her temper. Later, considering her precarious financial condition and need to educate her son, two increments were cut and she was reinstated to service. Later, her son got a very good job in Infosys. (Example for COMPASSION TOWARDS WOMEN; EMPATHY TOWARDS SUBORDINATES; WORK CULTURE)

Such anecdotes are many. You can use them in your answers. I repeat, please don’t run behind autobiographies and biographies now (You can read them, may be, after Mains). I never did so. The above anecdotes were heard or read by me in newspapers and on Internet. I just used them in answers.
Hence,
LESSON 3 – Try to use anecdotes (only If you know any) about great souls in your answers
In some cases, you may not have your real life incidents or anecdotes from lives of great souls. In such scenarios, try to create hypothetical scenarios and quote the same as example. Always start such examples with SUPPOSE….. ASSUME…. and so on.
To illustrate, for a question on ‘conflict of interest’, you can write an example as suppose an IAS officer is a part of an interview panel. While taking interviews, he/she discovers that a candidate is a son of his friend. Then that IAS officer should disclose that fact. He should abstain from taking interview of that candidate.
This kind of scenarios have to be created in exam hall depending upon the nature of the question. So, that kind of thinking has to be developed beforehand.
One more important tip – every case study you solve is a hypothetical scenario. So, you can use the case studies you may have practiced as hypothetical scenarios for your answers in the exam.
LESSON 4 – Create hypothetical scenarios on your own and use them in your answers.
CASE STUDIES
Remember the following things while answering case studies.

1. Try to provide practical solutions. Ideal solutions, if unworkable, would not fetch you marks.
2. Give out-of-the-box yet practical solutions.
3. Try to provide specific solutions. Avoid generalized solutions. To illustrate, don’t say, “I would take steps to promote TRANSPARENCY. Please mention how do you promote TRANSPARENCY.
4. When you are asked to give all the options available to you. Please give even the most undesirable course of action as one of the options. However, don’t choose that option. To illustrate, in a case that mentions about offer of bribe to you, mention ‘acceptance of bribe’ as one of the options. But prefer the options ‘rejection of bribe’.
5. Do not touch upon only core issues. Also touch upon peripheral issues in a case study. To illustrate, suppose a case study in which “you are the head of committee investigating the irregularities of colleges. You are in dilemma whether to recommend for the derecognition of college and spoil the career prospects of students or to recommend their regularization in the light of future of thousands of students. You have been offered a bribe of Rs. 5 crores.” In this case study, a core issue is ‘whether to regularize colleges’. Most candidates would just address this issue in their answer. However, there is another issue, which I would call ‘peripheral issue’, that is, offer of bribe. Try to address that issue as well. While addressing bribe issue, please don’t just say I won’t accept the bribe. Also say I would lodge complain against the person who has offered bribe.
6. Let your solutions try to balance conflicting options, as much as possible. (Caution – such balancing may not happen always). Let’s us consider the examples mentioned in the previous point. In that most candidates would say, either “i shall recommend derecognition of colleges because errant colleges have to be punished” or “I shall recommend for regularization of colleges because of the future of students”. I would say, try to think of a solution that punishes colleges and at the same time rescues the career prospects of thousands of students. Such solution can be – allowing already enrolled students to finish their course and recognizing their degrees while prohibiting any fresh admissions. Or accommodation of students of such colleges in other proper colleges.

One more illustration – suppose an elderly couple living in a village in a dilapidated house. They need a good house. They get some pension. Unfortunately, their son who lives in city would snatch that pension away from them. You are the head of a housing corporation. They apply seeking sanction of house under some housing scheme. Upon scrutiny, you realize that their income (because of pension) is more than the minimum income limit for a beneficiary. However, you can bend the rule and sanction a house. What will you do? In this case study, most candidates would take either of the two extreme stands – bending the rule and sanctioning the house in the light of humanity and compassion towards weaker sections or rejecting the house since that is against law. I would say, try to balance both. Such solutions can be

1. Consider this as a special case and request your higher ups to Grant you power to sanction the house
2. Reject the house under this scheme and try to accommodate their application in another housing scheme, if possible
3. Reject the house under this scheme and try to keep these couple in touch with some NGO or philanthropist who may help them build the house.

(Also ask the nearest police inspector to warn their son and ensure that he’d not snatch their pension in forthcoming months – this is a peripheral issue which most candidates miss)
Miscellaneous

1. Be prepared to write about your ‘role model’ and what have you learnt from him/her. Let your role model preferably be someone whom you have seen for long time, like your parents, teacher etc., rather than some great soul whom you have not met even once. This is my personal opinion, which may not be correct.
2. Whenever you answer some abstract question such as ‘happiness’ according to you, try to include the dimensions of ‘public life’ and ‘private life’. To elaborate, write what is happiness , according to you in public life and what is happiness according to you in private life.
3. Let all your answers reflect your EMPATHY towards public and colleagues or co-workers.
4. Bear in mind that you are not just a public servant, but you have some responsibility towards your subordinates as well. Thus, if media and public protest against your subordinate whom you know hasn’t breached his duty, don’t disown him/her. You stand by him/her.
5. Always be gender neutral – use s/he rather than using just ‘he’. Use him/her instead of ‘him’.
6. Know about your weaknesses as well. There may be a question that may ask you mention your weaknesses. Be smart in answering such questions.
7. Be ready with even at least one incident in which you have acted unethically. But while writing such incidents, don’t forget to mention that now you are repentant of such act and has never committed that act again.
8. Questions in ethics may be very much unpredictable. So, even if you get a completely new type of question, don’t get shocked. Remember that it is a new type of question to every other aspirant writing with you. Just stay calm and think.
9. It is very tough to write very short answers in ethics (personal experience in exam – I found it very difficult to shorten the answers). So, please be ready to write fast.
10. Ethics is a simple paper. Don’t complicate it. Don’t try to master the philosophies of all great thinkers on the earth. It is neither practicable nor desirable. I know coaching institutes bringing out a separate book on the philosophies of thinkers. I doubt their utility. Don’t waste time mastering them. Again, this is purely my personal opinion, that may be altogether incorrect.

GIST OF MY ETHICS ANSWER
Question – PATRIOTISM in civilian life according to you:
Answer –
“Putting bits of paper only in dustbin; Not jumping a traffic signal; Flushing the toilet after use…”. These three I remember exactly. But I now feel, more points can be added – “switching off lights when not in use, keying off the bike when it is at halt (mostly at traffic signals), and son on.
I have detailed my strategy above. Hope it helps to all of you. However, no strategy is cool-proof. You may draw inputs from my strategy. But, please draft your own strategy.
I wish all of you a heartfelt ALL THE BEST.

में जब भी अपने पुराने सरकारी स्कूल के पास से गुजरता हूं,

तो सोचता हूँ .....

मुझे बनाने में  खुद टूट सा गया है।

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जब भी में मेरे बेटे के प्रायवेट स्कूल

के पास से गुजरता हूँ, मुझे हमेशा लगता है...

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मुझे तोड़ कर खुद बनता ही जा रहा हैं।

😳

🔰 Look at these happy faces 

😄😊☺😂😌😚😆😄☺😁

 

And look at these sad faces 

😡😠😨😢😳😰😥😳😢😠😱😏😨

Did you notice that all happy facesc have closed eyes !

And on the other hand , all sad or angry faces have open eyes !

Dis is life , close ur eyes & ignore all negative things to live happy 😄

Yuo konw waht is Rael Reltionship? 

I m gving yuo an exmpl : Jsut c tihs msg. Evrey splleing of tihs msg is wrnog. Bt sitll yuo can raed it wihtuot ayn mistake. if u wnat true Raleti0nship; jsut ignoer mistaeks of otheres.. and understand them.....!!👍

Keep smiling😊

🌹When you are going through difficulty & wonder where god is,

Remember that...the teacher is always quiet during the test.

शुभ गुरु....

            

एक कहानी...           

       

बहुत समय पहले की बात है एक विख्यात ऋषि गुरुकुल में बालकों को शिक्षा प्रदान किया करते थे . उनके गुरुकुल में बड़े-बड़े रजा महाराजाओं के पुत्रों से लेकर साधारण परिवार के लड़के भी पढ़ा करते थे।

वर्षों से शिक्षा प्राप्त कर रहे शिष्यों की शिक्षा आज पूर्ण हो रही थी और सभी बड़े उत्साह के साथ अपने अपने घरों को लौटने की तैयारी कर रहे थे कि तभी ऋषिवर की तेज आवाज सभी के कानो में पड़ी ,

” आप सभी मैदान में एकत्रित हो जाएं। “

आदेश सुनते ही शिष्यों ने ऐसा ही किया।

ऋषिवर बोले , “ प्रिय शिष्यों , आज इस गुरुकुल में आपका अंतिम दिन है . मैं चाहता हूँ कि यहाँ से प्रस्थान करने से पहले आप सभी एक दौड़ में हिस्सा लें .

यह एक बाधा दौड़ होगी और इसमें आपको कहीं कूदना तो कहीं पानी में दौड़ना होगा और इसके आखिरी हिस्से में आपको एक अँधेरी सुरंग से भी गुजरना पड़ेगा .”

तो क्या आप सब तैयार हैं ?”

” हाँ , हम तैयार हैं ”, शिष्य एक स्वर में बोले .

दौड़ शुरू हुई .

सभी तेजी से भागने लगे . वे तमाम बाधाओं को पार करते हुए अंत में सुरंग के पास पहुंचे . वहाँ बहुत अँधेरा था और उसमे जगह – जगह नुकीले पत्थर भी पड़े थे जिनके चुभने पर असहनीय पीड़ा का अनुभव होता था .

सभी असमंजस में पड़ गए , जहाँ अभी तक दौड़ में सभी एक सामान बर्ताव कर रहे थे वहीँ अब सभी अलग -अलग व्यवहार करने लगे ; खैर , सभी ने ऐसे-तैसे दौड़ ख़त्म की और ऋषिवर के समक्ष एकत्रित हुए।

“पुत्रों ! मैं देख रहा हूँ कि कुछ लोगों ने दौड़ बहुत जल्दी पूरी कर ली और कुछ ने बहुत अधिक समय लिया , भला ऐसा क्यों ?”, ऋषिवर ने प्रश्न किया।

यह सुनकर एक शिष्य बोला , “ गुरु जी , हम सभी लगभग साथ –साथ ही दौड़ रहे थे पर सुरंग में पहुचते ही स्थिति बदल गयी …कोई दुसरे को धक्का देकर आगे निकलने में लगा हुआ था तो कोई संभल -संभल कर आगे बढ़ रहा था …और कुछ तो ऐसे भी थे जो पैरों में चुभ रहे पत्थरों को उठा -उठा कर अपनी जेब में रख ले रहे थे ताकि बाद में आने वाले लोगों को पीड़ा ना सहनी पड़े…. इसलिए सब ने अलग-अलग समय में दौड़ पूरी की .”

“ठीक है ! जिन लोगों ने पत्थर उठाये हैं वे आगे आएं और मुझे वो पत्थर दिखाएँ “, ऋषिवर ने आदेश दिया .

आदेश सुनते ही कुछ शिष्य सामने आये और पत्थर निकालने लगे . पर ये क्या जिन्हे वे पत्थर समझ रहे थे दरअसल वे बहुमूल्य हीरे थे . सभी आश्चर्य में पड़ गए और ऋषिवर की तरफ देखने लगे .

“ मैं जानता हूँ आप लोग इन हीरों के देखकर आश्चर्य में पड़ गए हैं .” ऋषिवर बोले।

“ दरअसल इन्हे मैंने ही उस सुरंग में डाला था , और यह दूसरों के विषय में सोचने वालों शिष्यों को मेरा इनाम है।

पुत्रों यह दौड़ जीवन की भागम -भाग को दर्शाती है, जहाँ हर कोई कुछ न कुछ पाने के लिए भाग रहा है . पर अंत में वही सबसे समृद्ध होता है जो इस भागम -भाग में भी दूसरों के बारे में सोचने और उनका भला करने से नहीं चूकता है .

अतः यहाँ से जाते -जाते इस बात को गाँठ बाँध लीजिये कि आप अपने जीवन में सफलता की जो इमारत खड़ी करें उसमे परोपकार की ईंटे लगाना कभी ना भूलें , अंततः वही आपकी सबसे अनमोल जमा-पूँजी होगी ...।

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